Boundaries are an essential element in all successful relationships. This is doubly true after infidelity. But how do you effectively form and implement useful relationship boundaries after your partner has cheated on you?

First and foremost, you need to understand that the boundaries set in the aftermath of discovery are almost always going to be about safety. Basically, you want to feel safe in your relationship, and you will need your partner to respect certain boundaries for that to occur. You probably don’t want to fully shut your partner out, nor do you want to fully control your partner’s every move, but you do want to feel safe in your interactions.

To this end, you will need to set both internal and external boundaries:

It is likely your relationship already had both internal and external boundaries, though possibly such boundaries were implied or assumed rather than explicitly stated. After infidelity, implied or assumed boundaries are not enough. Moving forward, you will have to very........

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