Allie is trying to decide if she wants to move with her partner to a new city; Tomas struggles to deal with his procrastination, which is undermining his job; and Jake and Maria are worried about their son’s emotional meltdowns but are unsure what to do.

Life is filled with problems, big and small, but the latest big problem can absorb 90% of your brain space, derail your everyday life, and create anxiety, anger, or depression. Here are six tips to help you move forward on any problem:

When we’re anxious or depressed, our emotional brain tells us that we need to feel better to do better, but most often, the opposite is true: If you keep doing the same thing, you keep feeling the same way; instead, do better to feel better. Here, Allie checks out jobs and salaries in the new city; Tomas gets an accountability buddy to help him not procrastinate; Jake and Maria look for a child therapist to help their son.

If you're feeling stuck in solving a problem, ask yourself: What is the problem under the problem? Allie wonders why she hesitates to move—is it about the city, the........

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