There are at least three reasons why a marriage will be experienced as not good enough. The first is a lack of clarity about what you want and what your spouse desires. The second is an attachment to an idealized partner, which condemns the natural partner to failure. The third is an investment in a perfect marriage, which will cause immense dissatisfaction.

Telling your spouse what you want and your spouse agreeing to do his or her best to meet your request are requirements for a good-enough marriage, accompanied by a measure........

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