The fact that, per studies and my own clinical observation, women on average are higher in emotional intelligence than men is not an indictment of a man’s capability to grow a rich emotional life.
My definition of emotional intelligence would include men being able to feel the emotional energy in their bodies, name the emotion, and feel the permission to disclose it. They would be accountable for what they feel, let go of blaming someone, and have the ability to regulate their nervous system. There would also be an awareness of emotional needs and the ability to ask for what would satisfy the needs. Lastly, there would be an ability to be empathic to the emotions of others.
I suggest that men’s emotional maturation delay is primarily due to their acculturation. They were allocated control over the external terrain, while the internal landscape implicitly went to women. We can say that........