The Real Cause of Infidelity |
Do you know which sentence people most frequently underline in my book, Healing from Infidelity?
"Unhappy marriages don’t cause infidelity. Being unfaithful causes infidelity."
Why do you think this sentence has stood out?
First, here’s something many people (even some therapists) don’t know and is counterintuitive: not everyone who has an affair believes his or her marriage is unhappy.
In fact, data suggest that many cheating spouses report that their marriages are good, and that leaving their spouse was never a consideration. There are many other reasons people decide to have an affair besides unhappiness with their partner.
But beyond those who are in solid marriages and just looking for adventure, there are also people who decide to have an affair because they feel a void in their marriages.
Sometimes the emptiness stems from a lack of emotional connection —........