I was recently struggling with a big decision and talking about it with my friend. It’s a risky decision and honestly, it’s unnecessary. My life would continue beautifully as is if I were to say no but could improve exponentially if I were to say yes. As we considered the pros and cons of my choices, I realized that it all came down to my belief in myself. If I said yes, I’d be diving into the deep end of the uncertainty pool and swimming or sinking would all depend on me. No one else. And if I said no, my life would remain the same (for the time being) and I wouldn’t experience any waves, or even ripples really, in the pool.

I really wanted to say yes and as it became clearer that this decision was really about my self-belief and nothing else, my friend said, “I will always bet on myself.”

Her words stopped me. I needed to sit with them for a moment to really consider........

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