Romantic relationships today carry heavy expectations. We want our partner to be our best friend, confidant, co-parent, caregiver, and lover. This is a lot to ask of one person; no wonder many relationships struggle under the weight of these expectations.

Our culture has elevated romantic love to the status of religion, placing on it the burden of delivering happiness, purpose, and well-being. But the truth is, your partner can’t complete you. Instead, look outside the relationship for fun, connection, and stimulation. That isn’t disloyal; it’s healthy.

Let’s face it, you and your partner won’t share every interest. Maybe you’re into whisky tastings, and they’d rather go to the spa. Perhaps they love televised sports while you’re passionate about art and anime. Trying to force a shared interest can lead to resentment and boredom.

Instead, do these things with people who genuinely share your enthusiasm. Watch the game with mates or go to the gallery with a coworker. By outsourcing certain activities, you enjoy your interests fully, and your partner gets the benefit of a break or the chance to see their family and friends.

When relationships are new, it’s exciting to do everything together, but, over time, it’s OK to keep some interests separate. The balance of shared activities and personal time is essential for........

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