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A 2021 study published in the journal Frontiers In Psychology highlighted the importance of healthy communication in a relationship, not just in tense moments like a fight or an emergency but also when experiencing good times like a promotion or a romantic vacation. A partner’s response and manner of communication in these moments can lead to either higher levels of relationship satisfaction or signal the end of the relationship.

Here are two critical moments in a relationship that can impact its future.

1. How Your Partner Responds in a Fight

Research shows that arguments and communication issues are some of the leading causes for relationships ending. However, it is not only the topic of the disagreement, but also how partners communicate during the course of it that matters.

For instance, a partner's tone of voice, their tendency to interrupt or speak over the other and whether they feel belittled or that their problems are being minimized all contribute to the outcome of a conflict. Research shows that while a disagreement in itself is not harmful, being defensive, stubborn and withdrawing from a conversation can be detrimental to relationships.

In contrast, "perceived partner responsiveness," which signifies how caring, understanding and validating a partner is perceived to be, has a healing effect in times of adversity. Even during a heated argument, it is possible to maintain a respectful tone and let your partner know that you care about them, despite disagreeing with them.........

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