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Self-sabotaging thought processes can come in many forms, including absolutist thinking.
We may have religiously attended therapy for years, yet find ourselves hiding from ourselves.
When will I be living the emotionally satisfying existence that I deserve?
When I was small, my American-ness rubbed up against my Hui-ness. I remember remarking to my dad that life was always going to be unfair for me, and loads of other people never had it as hard as I did. My dad was quick to point out my faulty thinking and my use of words like always, never, and forever. “Why do you use these words?” he asked. “Some days are hard, and some days are not, for all people.”
Then he sat at the kitchen table, sipping his tea as if he were a monk sitting cross-legged on a mountaintop. I didn’t hear him utter my forever kind of language. Instead, he peppered his conversations with possibilities and set aside anything that seemed remotely permanent. To him, life was about acceptance and harmony with the natural flow of life. It is wu wei 無為 or non-action, sometimes you do nothing, and everything flows.
Over time, I have found that it is........