How AI Can Help You Avoid Toxic or Abusive Partners |
I'm a therapist with reservations about the use of AI.
As a trauma therapist and dating and relationship coach, most of my work involves helping clients develop a strong sense of self-worth, build self-trust, and feel empowered as they date and pursue meaningful relationships. So it should come as no surprise that I have had some reservations about the use of AI to support one’s dating and relationship goals.
While AI is an extremely helpful tool and resource, it has also created a form of codependency among its users—especially when it comes to navigating interpersonal relationships and dynamics. I’ve had many clients share that they use AI to craft flirty texts and one-liners to prospective partners, interpret text message threads or exchanges, and/or assess the safety of a dating relationship. Ultimately, many folks are recruiting AI to do the heavy lifting that comes with dating. Instead of learning how to hone one’s intuition or inner knowing, being vulnerable by showing up authentically, or checking in with a safe person about a potentially high-risk situation with a date or partner, AI has become a crutch, making it harder for people to believe in themselves and their own abilities.
To put it simply, when we use AI to do the things we are capable of doing, it often reinforces the negative beliefs we already have about ourselves—such as “I can’t trust myself,”........