The Presence of Their Absence |
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There were days when I just missed Rob so damn much that I could barely stand it. It came out of nowhere, triggered by nothing, and I found myself overwhelmed by the presence of his absence.
His silence was deafening, and all I wanted to do was cry.
Sometimes I felt the presence of his absence when I talked with my ex-wife, Caryn, or my younger son, Zach. Sometimes it was when someone asked if I had any kids. Sometimes I’d look up at the sky and almost see Rob hiding behind a cloud. Sometimes it was nothing more than hearing a distant whisper in the middle of the night, and sometimes the sound was piercing, like on his birthday.
Sometimes the presence of Rob’s absence felt worse than the absence of his presence.
I’m sure you’ve had strange days like these too. You may wake up early in the morning when it’s nice and quiet, longing to hear your child’s voice again. You may be driving somewhere, and the vacant shotgun seat suddenly fills you with sorrow. You may........