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The time has to be right; one has to be, by chance or intention, upon the border of two worlds. And sometimes these two borders may shift or interpenetrate and one sees the miraculous. -Loren Eiseley.
We’re not our skin of grime, we’re not dread bleak dusty imageless locomotives, we’re golden sunflowers inside -Allen Ginsberg
Life, in many ways, is a quest to define yourself within relationships. Yet our Western-based culture has placed many constraints on that biological drive to connect with others and our environment. Through profit-based marketing's ability to transform our natural instincts, we have succumbed to a competitive win-lose metaphor: who makes the best coffee to the last drop, what detergent will make you more romantic, or having your shirts go untucked.
Within this framework that fosters competitiveness and far too many instances of demoralizing psychological patterns, the question arises: where are our edges? How do we recognize, accept, and interface with larger contexts that nature has already mastered through encouraging possibilities and improvisation in a way to sustain interdependency?
This is important, especially since we are constantly part of this ecology, which often peeks out from what is hidden within us, but is not unheard. It is here in our role in this kaleidoscope of our being. It starts with nature's unending mantra that she is more than the sum of her parts. Yes, each part, be it you, me, or the worms that help to reinforce our soil, allowing the emergence of a sunflower as Allen Ginsberg ( whose centennial birthday is being celebrated this coming June) so poignantly........