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Many men see commitment as a lifestyle shift, not just a romantic one.
The biggest contributing factor for men deciding to marry isn’t turning a certain age or finding "the one."
Emotional safety plays a bigger role in men's decisions than most people realize.
I’m not married. I’ve never been married. I’m an undrafted free agent out of my prime. My longest life commitments thus far have been to a wine club and Netflix — both of which I’ve quit and resumed multiple times. My parents, though, have been married since they eloped after sneaking out their bedroom windows at age 16 in Wichita, Kansas. They remain the closest thing to the definition of “soulmates.”
Much has been penned about the free-spirited male species, as if we were as rare and captivating as the Northern White Rhino, and as hard to tame as the Black Jaguar. The female Homo sapiens remain both perplexed and annoyed at trying to domesticate the male while adorning him in merino wool cardigans and suede Venetian loafers.
But exactly when a man settles is far less about the suitor, and more about his own enigmatic inner clock.
Men aren’t commitment-phobic
Men are often typecast as having a general fear of commitment, or gamophobia. There are certainly instances in which this is true, for reasons including past trauma, fear of vulnerability, fear of losing personal freedom, or fear of committing to the wrong person and........