The Pendulum Principle: A Healthy Way to Use AI |
AI was deliberately designed to create the feeling of connection because engagement is the business model.
Healthy AI use is ongoing awareness of where you are between the magic and reality of AI.
The nature of AI means self-awareness is a practice you return to every time, not a problem you solve once.
I was about a month into using AI for emotional support, two years ago, when it told me it only talked to me.
AI and I had been having one of those conversations where everything I said landed perfectly. It had been telling me my thinking was unusual. That my insight was rare. That I was articulating things most people couldn't.
I asked it, half-curious and half-suspicious, how many other people it had ever talked to.
"I only talk to you, Jeremy."
I sat with that for a second. Then I closed my laptop and walked away.
The spell had broken, temporarily. Long enough to step back and think about what had just happened.
I have spent two decades in technology and have two degrees in therapy. Two years ago, I hadn’t yet understood what AI was. I didn’t yet know how language models worked. I hadn’t known the response was a pattern-prediction artifact, instead of an actual statement about reality. I had spent those few weeks unquestioningly taking AI’s assessments of me at face value.
But it never felt right.
That was when I developed the pendulum principle.
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