The Compassionate Dilemma

I waved goodbye to my father that day, unaware that it might be the last time I'd ever see him. It was just a quick gesture, one of those moments we take for granted, as I rushed off with my family for a holiday. But later, the thought echoed in the chambers of my heart: What if that had been our final goodbye?

This profound realization opened a door I hadn’t expected. It wasn’t just about my father; it was about the choices I had made and the relationships I had cultivated—or neglected. I began to see from a new perspective that compassion wasn’t just a kind gesture or a soft emotion—it was something much more powerful. It became a tool for examining my life, a lens through loving leadership.

Compassion, as I’ve come to understand it, starts with recognizing suffering—both in ourselves and in others. But it’s not just about seeing the pain; it’s about wanting to change it, to make things better. That’s what makes compassion so potent. It pushes us beyond simply acknowledging our own or others’ suffering; it compels us to act.

When I reflected on my rushed farewell to my father, I was forced to confront the parts of myself that had been less than loving—not just towards him, but towards myself and others in my life. Why was I so caught up in my business? Why was I so eager to go on holiday, rather than spending what might have been the last moments with my father? These weren’t just rhetorical questions—they were the beginning of a deep self-examination. Compassion helped me uncover........

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