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“How are you?” “It’s good to see you!” “How can I help you?” Extending these simple greetings are some of the ways to put others at ease. Unfortunately, people are so busy grappling with their own lives that they forget to offer such courtesies to others. Over time, not hearing such words can lead to a feeling of aloneness, especially in today’s rat-race global landscape.

With the levels of chaos happening throughout the world—whether political unrest, economic instability, food insecurity, AI challenges, stock fluctuation, or social uncertainty—it is important to know that you are never alone. Everyone you meet, whether virtually or physically, could be a potential help if you pay attention to the environment and circumstances that brought the two of you together. After all, no one is an island. You arrived on the scene (through birth) by design and natural happenstance. That means you have always had at least one person with you, whether your biological parent, foster parent, caregiver, high school coach, child, or neighbor. In other words, help is always at hand if you look hard and make yourself available to receive it. Irrespective of demographic characteristics, people share more in common than their differences. That is why most people are willing to help if asked. Unfortunately, fear of rejection often gets in the way. But once you push beyond the fears, demographic differences can become a source of strength.

There are five undeniable truths about human existence. First, no one was born wearing clothes. Second, someone took care of us and clothed us in some fashion or another when we were babies. Third, pain and joy have universal psychological effects. Fourth, someone assisted us morally, economically, spiritually, and relationally in order for us to arrive at this moment. Fifth, every human being has blood that runs in their veins (no exceptions). If these phenomena are true, it is possible that you are never alone. You just have to give well-meaning people a chance to show you kindness.

Yale psychologist Dr. Stanley Milgram was interested in measuring kindness. “He did an experiment in which he scattered stamped, addressed letters all over New Haven, dropping them onto sidewalks and placing them in telephone booths and other public places. Most letters arrived at their destinations, which means that the good people of New Haven had picked them up and put them into a mailbox—simple acts of kindness that could never be reciprocated” (Bloom, 2013). Human beings are capable of doing what is right without expecting any reward in return. If it happened in 1965, it can happen over and over again if we translate our thoughts into actions. You are never alone because the universe has a way of conspiring to make acts of kindness happen.

5 undeniable truths that suggest that you are never alone

We were all born unclothed. As silly as it may sound, this simple reminder is an indication that you are always attached to humanity. And that humanity is a person or group of people. No matter what. No one was born fully clothed from birth. In other words, we all came into this space with no cloth on our backs. Therefore, no one is problem-free. If you accept this principle, then humanity will never fail you. There is always a person at any given time who is willing to assist. With that mindset, you can confidently move into action instead of cowering in a corner feeling abandoned.

Someone cared for and clothed us in some fashion or another when we were babies. Throughout your lifetime, someone is always in your corner directly or indirectly, loving, caring, or praying for you. You are always in someone’s thoughts whether close or far. It can be in the form of a partner, parents, siblings, neighbors, church members, best friend, fellow unhoused persons, teacher, foster care agency, coworker, or government agency. The truth is that you are never alone. Human beings were never designed to be alone. Rather, humanity is rich and ever-present to send help to you. Acknowledging this truth could help you cope in times of difficulty.

Pain and joy have universal psychological effects. Life has its ups and downs, and you can expect to have times of difficulty and times of plenty. Guaranteed. This observation rings true across the seven continents of the world. Therefore, you are never alone. You are simply experiencing the same times of struggle and relief as everyone else. All you need is to join a group—whether online or in person—to find your tribe. Mental health professionals are also available to listen to you. Joy and pain are central parts of human experience. With this mindset and a tribe by your side, you can forge ahead.

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Someone must have assisted us to arrive where we are at this moment. There is no such thing as a self-made millionaire. From what we have discussed so far, interpersonal relationships are inevitable. Even when you think that you made it alone, someone, whether a government agency, banking institution, a friend, coworker, or trust funds, assisted you in the process. The belief that humanity is interconnected is enough reason not to feel alone. Finding courage to make contact with people can promote your mental and social well-being. After all, the blood that runs in your veins runs in everyone else’s too.

Every human being has blood that runs in their veins (no exceptions). There is life in the blood. Because blood is an essential part of human existence, everyone has it. People are globally dependent on each other for one resource or another—just as blood can be transfused from a stranger to the person who needs it, so humanity is one.

If you are feeling alone, it’s simply a sign that you are not paying attention to what is happening around you. Whenever you feel you are alone, remind yourself that you were born unclothed just like everyone else, someone cared for you just like everyone else was cared for, pain and joy are universal constructs that unite everybody, nobody makes it alone, and blood is what binds all humankind together to stay alive and well. Therefore, to cure the feeling of aloneness, reach out and connect with people for support, because people are generally kind when you reach out to the right people at the right time. In addition, there are professional life coaches, therapists, mentors, counselors, and clergy who are willing to make time for you and act on your behalf.

Agbanyim, J. I., Arora, R. (2016). Think: The Foundation of Self-awareness and Engagement. U.S.A: John Westley Publishing.

Bloom, P. 2013. Just Babies: The Origins of Good and Evil. New York: Crown Publishing Group.

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