The Secret to Getting Beyond the First Date |
Have you ever gotten the “yuck” on a first date? Or did you ever start off feeling very attracted to someone only to notice your brain picking them apart in the weeks that follow, leading you to cut off your interactions? Have you ever sat across from someone who you felt was challenging or having a funny reaction to you?
These are emotional reactions that are probably not fully under conscious control. Otherwise, you would probably just be amused by other people’s quirks and reactions and not “feel” any particular way about them. (And, no, I am not saying to ignore your serial killer vibes—if you get those, run away!)
In these instances, you are making decisions on whether to move forward with someone or end the interaction based on very limited data. You have input from your emotional system (data) and input from your cortex (consciously interpreting your perceptions; data). But do you know which data to pay more attention to? Sometimes the data from your emotional system might tell you, "Run away!” while the data from your cortex—"This person is hot!"—might tell you to move forward.
The important thing to note is that you get to choose which part of your........