There is an ethical question at the heart of discerning whether you want to stay or go in any marriage or long-term relationship.
Do you dishonor your own needs and dreams?
In a 20-, 30-, or 40-year love, one wouldn’t make the decision lightly.
It is the right thing to do, the ethical thing, to break up as soon as you know that the person cannot honor your core needs.
It is the right thing for you, primarily. Once a partner communicates those needs and has seen their partner’s potential, they can decide whether they seem able or willing.
In that case of the unwilling or unable, there’s a........