This post is part of a series on adverse childhood experiences. Read the other parts here.

Do you ever feel like an imposter? Feigning confidence when you don’t feel you’re up to the task? Fearing that others will discover your weakness? If so, you’re not alone. Most people feel this way at times and to varying degrees. However, imposter syndrome describes a condition in which people feel such feelings deeply and lastingly. Whether we have these feelings occasionally or chronically, the syndrome teaches us many lessons. Here are its characteristics. See how many apply to you.

Negative identity and view of self

Self-doubt

Comparisons and discomfort around others

Fears

False front

Overcompensating

Note that driven overachieving is an attempt to defend against the imposter’s fears and self-doubts. Sadly, outward success, achievements, and the approval of others don’t usually quell the imposter’s feeling of not being good enough. Rather, the relentless, exhausting struggle to appear good enough increases the risk for depression, anxiety, and burnout.

At the root of the syndrome is damaged self-esteem, which manifests as self-doubt, fear of being exposed, comparisons to others, and so forth. Consistent with low self-esteem, imposters focus on what is lacking, rather than their strengths and potential. In other words, they don’t see themselves realistically and with appreciation.

Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), such as abuse, neglect, or turmoil in the home, lead to low self-esteem and shame, often persuading the overwhelmed child to feel worthless and powerless. The constantly criticized child concludes, “I’m not good enough.” So the protective mask worn in adulthood makes sense, as do the antidotes.

You are not an imposter if you are wise and humble enough to recognize your present limitations while trying to improve yourself. We imperfect humans can rest secure, as is often said, if we speak from the heart, do our honest best, and accept the outcome. You are good enough.

References

For more, see my book, The Adverse Childhood Experiences Recovery Workbook: Heal the Hidden Wounds from Childhood Affecting Your Adult Mental and Physical Health.