How to Solve Recurring Relationship Problems |
I have noticed that many of my clients face different versions of the same recurring interpersonal problem. Each time it occurs, they treat it as if it were unexpected and something entirely new. Or, if they realize that they are in a familiar dilemma, they wonder: “Why does this always happen to me?”
One of the things that I do for my clients is teach them to look for what all the different instances have in common and what role they are playing in creating similar issues with different people. Basically, I teach them to think more like a therapist.
As I listen to my clients talk about problems in therapy, I look for any issues that seem to repeat in different forms. I am usually able to see the underlying connections quite easily even though my client cannot. Then I ask a series of questions to encourage the self-reflection that I will help........