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Commitment can involve both dedication and constraints that keep partners together.

Commitment uncertainty can exist at the outset, or develop after an event or as the relationship deteriorates.

Both attachment anxiety and attachment avoidance are associated with relationship uncertainty.

Commitment uncertainty can concern one's own commitment or their perception of their partner’s commitment.

Commitment uncertainty is one of the major challenges couples may present with in couples therapy. Commitment is typically a fundamental part of an exclusive romantic relationship. It influences how partners invest in the relationship, identify with one another, and engage with their shared life. Yet, partners may become unsure whether they want to remain committed, whether the relationship will continue, or whether they want to keep investing in it. This is referred to as commitment uncertainty. Understanding this uncertainty is important because a lack of commitment is strongly associated with separation and divorce.

Commitment uncertainty emerges after partners have formed a mutually agreed-upon relationship, such as an exclusive monogamous relationship, and it differs from the uncertainty that can occur during early dating, when the relationship status has not yet been defined.

Several theoretical models describe two broad aspects of commitment. The first concerns wanting to be in the relationship, while the second concerns forces that encourage a person to remain in the relationship.

Research distinguishes these as dedication commitment and constraint commitment. Dedication includes a strong sense of couple identity, a desire for the relationship to continue long term, giving the relationship priority, and a willingness to sacrifice for it. As partners experience their relationship as meaningful and meeting their needs, they tend to pay less attention to alternatives. Constraint commitment refers to difficulties that bind partners together. These can include investments in the relationship, concerns about the well-being of a partner or children, financial circumstances, and social pressure. Constraints can encourage partners to remain together and may also encourage them to work on their relationship. However, constraint commitment alone is unlikely to be sufficient for a functional and healthy relationship........

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