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How Kindness and Compassion Make Hard Goals Doable

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27.02.2026

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A love-based approach can fuel follow-through when habit systems stall.

Treat setbacks like data, not failure, to stay engaged with your training plan.

Celebrate others’ progress to boost your own motivation and consistency.

Last week, a coaching client challenged me to do 100 push-ups—in eight weeks, to be able to do 100 push-ups over four sets: 40, 30, 20, 10. Of course I got to it right away.

Not because I wanted to prove myself or even because I care that much about how many push-ups I can do—but because I wanted to support him.

You see, he is also making a change over the next eight weeks, one that is much more personal, with higher stakes.

Love-Based Goal-Setting

We know how to make tiny habits by now: set a goal, choose small steps, cue the behavior, reward the behavior.

Why is it that even when we do those........

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