Our self-esteem and lovability increase as we become psychologically healthy. These specific practices build our integrity and effectiveness.

As healthy adults, we see and accept the givens of life. We accept the limitations in ourselves and others. We appreciate our own and others’ gifts. Our adult aspiration is a full acceptance of what is unchangeable, the courage to tackle what can be improved, and the wisdom to know the difference.

We set reasonable goals for ourselves in all areas of our lives. Examples might be psychological progress, excellence in sports, academic achievement, professional standing, artistic success, increasing resources, etc. These goals are based on an honest assessment of our personalities, our gifts, our limitations, and our capacities. We do all that it takes to fulfill our goals. We also try to exceed our goals whenever possible. We are not hobbled by failures. As body-mind-heart beings, we work for maximum bodily fitness, mental clarity, freedom of imagination, and emotional expressiveness. We increase our sense of our own self-worth as we notice our own fidelity to our goals and our skill at fulfilling them.

We keep growing in self-esteem, self-caring, and self-compassion. We do not see ourselves as above or below others, only fellow companions on the human pilgrimage. We love showing ourselves just as we are. We are not people-pleasing........

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