There’s a tired myth in the personal-growth world—“Heal yourself first, then you’ll be ready for a relationship.”—as if intimacy was some kind of prize awarded only after achieving emotional enlightenment, ten pounds lost, and a fully optimized nervous system.

Listen, if we all waited until we were fully healed, evolved, and spiritually polished, the planet would be a monastery. You don’t have to be perfect to be in a relationship. You don’t have to purge every childhood wound or meditate yourself into sainthood. You don’t have to finish the........

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