None of us were taught how to have healthy relationships. In fact, most of us learned unhealthy relational skills from our parents or primary caregivers, television and media, and elsewhere. While we're all doing the best we can, as adults we need to learn new relational skills in order to create the amazing, healthy relationships we long for. ⁠

The good news is that you have a lot of agency over how your relationships feel and how healthy they are, once you learn the relational skills you need. Then, you’re not dependent on others or the universe to improve your relationships; you’re not helpless and things aren’t hopeless. The more healthy relational skills you learn and practice, the more you can create relationships that feel deeply connected, nourishing, reciprocal, and secure. ⁠

You can’t change others no matter how relationally skilled you are. But when you change how you participate in your relationships, you change your relational system. That means you can make a huge difference in the health of all of your relationships just by changing yourself.

The following is a list of common relational patterns that cause distance and disconnection with others. These patterns make relationships feel much more painful and difficult than they need to. All of these relational patterns require you to take responsibility for your part and to work on changing yourself internally and then changing the way you engage with others.

⁠Now that you’re aware of some of the common relationship mistakes people make, pay attention to yourself in your relationships. Notice whether you make any of these mistakes.

The first step to change is always awareness. If you are making these mistakes, you can begin to practice healthier relational skills so you can create more nourishing relationships.

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3 Ways You're Ruining Your Relationship

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07.06.2023

None of us were taught how to have healthy relationships. In fact, most of us learned unhealthy relational skills from our parents or primary caregivers, television and media, and elsewhere. While we're all doing the best we can, as adults we need to learn new relational skills in order to create the amazing, healthy relationships we long for. ⁠

The good news is that you have a lot of agency over how your relationships feel and how healthy they are,........

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