Search the dating app profiles out there, and you'll find something quite dramatic. Plenty o' people are saying things like, "I don't do drama", "I don't want drama", "I hate drama", or, simply, "No drama." The statements probably aren't about not wanting to act in a play or musical. Rather, they're emphasizing not wanting drama in a relationship.

Drama in a relationship is typically defined as unnecessary conflict or unnecessary ups and downs. It's not the type of conflict that helps solve problems and strengthens the relationship. Instead, unnecessary conflict consists of disputes over things that don't seem to matter. Or conflicts that reach intensities disproportionately higher than what is merited by the situations.

It may seem that no one would want unnecessary conflict in their relationships. It's not as if many dating profiles say, "Looking for someone to fight with while taking long walks on the beach." Then why do some people feel the need to specifically state their aversion to such drama? After all, how many people assert before and during a relationship, "No yaks falling on me, please."

When people say, "I don't want drama," there's a decent chance that they have experienced a fair amount of drama in past relationships. The obvious next question is why? What could be the common denominator in their past relationships? Could it perhaps, maybe, possibly be, oh, them?

Consciously or unconsciously, they may be doing some of the following 20 things that can bring instability and drama into their relationships:

When people repeatedly moan about others bringing drama, they may not recognize and acknowledge their part in the plot. The only way to break such a cycle of drama is for the main character to change. Otherwise, you may find yourself next on the main stage of instability or eventually exiting stage left.

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When People Say They Don't Want Drama, What Do They Mean?

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10.06.2024

Search the dating app profiles out there, and you'll find something quite dramatic. Plenty o' people are saying things like, "I don't do drama", "I don't want drama", "I hate drama", or, simply, "No drama." The statements probably aren't about not wanting to act in a play or musical. Rather, they're emphasizing not wanting drama in a relationship.

Drama in a relationship is typically defined as unnecessary conflict or unnecessary ups and downs. It's........

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