The 8 Unspoken Rules of Therapy |
Going to therapy is a bold step toward change. While much is said about how to find a therapist, which is the first step, less is discussed about how to begin the work itself and remain in it, the second, no less important step. There are subtle, often unspoken dynamics that define a successful progression of the start. These are the rules that aren’t found in a directory, but in the quiet space between you and your therapist, and in the process.
Here is what you really need to know.
Rule 1: Your feelings will amplify before they make sense.
At the beginning of therapy, you may suddenly feel heightened fear, anger, shame, or sadness. This is not a sign that something is wrong, but it is a sign that something has already begun. The moment you committed to this path, your unconscious started the work. Feelings waiting to be addressed begin to surface, making themselves known. Do not be alarmed by their intensity. It is a normal, even expected, part of the initial stage and is something to be discussed with your therapist.
Rule 2: You won’t know your method until you try it.
While you can research modalities, such as cognitive........