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Aging requires us to contemplate and reflect and ultimately act on our needs and desires.

Aging can teach us the value of self-care.

We must do what we want for as long as we can.

Following our bliss helps us stay productive and joyful.

I view age as just a number. Yet I feel delighted when someone reacts with shock when learning of my actual age. At almost 72, reality reminds me I am traversing a narrower life trajectory than 10 years ago. My more finite road accommodates fewer friends. Some who once populated my life detached themselves; others, I gently removed. My acceptance of these friendship losses results from my wisdom gained over many lived decades. I once fought for such friends: I called, made plans, stayed in touch, even when they didn’t. Today, I let them go. There just aren’t enough hours in my week to concentrate on those who have withered away from me. While I still appreciate them, honestly, I am just full. Full of those in the past who showed a cruel side of themselves that I ignored.

I’m patient, loyal, and understanding until I am not. Then, the rope that has held the friendship boat in place is permanently cut. With detachment, I peacefully watch my loyalty and devotion float away. I am fine with this permanent separation. Today, I have fewer friends, but they have permanent residency within my heart. A positive result of my aging journey.

I gracefully accept my wrinkles; my non-botoxed forehead; my jellied arms and gravity-sagging........

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