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Your relationship is a marathon. The only way around the hard parts is through them.

Trying to regulate your emotions mid-fight is like locking up mid-race. You have to feel all of it.

You can only hurt the ones you love. Hate and love are the same thing in a different color.

Your kids are cheering you on. How you run the race is their relational legacy.

Co-authored by Galit Romanelli

2.20.2019. The night before the Tel Aviv Marathon, my wife Galit and I had a huge fight.

She felt I was irresponsible. That timing of the race was bad and I would be exhausted and not present for the weekend with the kids before going away on a business trip. I felt like she was suddenly changing our arrangement.

We moved between talking and not talking. Between being insulted and hurting each other.

She asked me to cancel the marathon. I said no. I said "Galit, this marathon is more important to me right now than your request." We woke up at 4:30 the following morning and drove to the race. In that drive I felt so alone. Galit was running a 10k. I was running the full marathon. And away I went.

As I started running, all I could think about was how alone I felt. I was moving between feeling sorry for myself and being angry at my wife. Feeling sorry for myself and being angry. Over and over. Stuck. Stuck. Stuck.

Kilometer 21: The only way around is through

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