The Paradox of Inner Wealth |
In the vast literature on human fulfillment, few questions prove as persistent—or as persistently misunderstood—as the source of what we might call inner wealth. Why do some people radiate a certain fullness of being while others, often despite immense external success, describe themselves as empty or impoverished in some essential way?
The conventional answer, deeply embedded in our modern therapeutic culture, suggests that inner poverty stems from insufficient reception: We weren’t loved enough, recognized enough, or validated enough. We are taught that to feel "full," we must be "filled" by others.
However, those who have stood at the threshold of life—those who have undergone near-death experiences (NDEs)—frequently tell us something strikingly different. When they undergo a life review, they don’t evaluate their journey by how much they received or how often they felt "good." They don’t ask if they were sufficiently validated. Instead, they ask a much more piercing question: "Was I good for something? What was I good for?"
They measure the weight of their lives by what they shared and sent out into the world—even things that seemed infinitesimally small at the time: a kind word to a stranger, a listening ear during a friend's crisis, or a moment of patience when it was least expected. They look at what........