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I've had people un-match me for being bisexual

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24.08.2019

In Love, Or Something Like It, our new Metro.co.uk series, we’re on a quest to find true love.

Covering everything from mating, dating and procreating to lust and loss, we’ll be looking at what love is and how to find it in the present day.

That moment when a cisgender, heterosexual man you’re on a date with asks about your exes… that’s when my hands get clammy.

I wonder how quickly the word ‘threesome’ will leave his mouth. The last time it was less than 30 seconds. Maybe this guy will beat it?

I get asked about my sexual history in astonishing detail because this is what dating is like when you’re bisexual. My history is open season for mere strangers to delve into.

Bisexuality is often seen as an intersection – I’m almost gay but not quite there, so my preferences are not taken seriously. I guess that’s why it’s easier for people to ask such intimate questions.

If I were a lesbian, for example, men wouldn’t have enough access to me to ask when I last slept with a woman.

If I do date a man, there’s the risk I’ll face their homophobia or some may consider me ‘straight again’. Except I’m not straight. I find myself questioning whether I should actively search for a queer woman or non-binary (NB) person to avoid this.

The erasure of bisexuality has started to grate. My........

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