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'I caught my 14-year-old brother vaping.- should I tell mum and dad?'
I caught my 14-year-old brother vaping.
I lectured him about it, as he is asthmatic and told him our parents would be furious if they found out.
He said he had stopped, but I know that’s a lie.
Should I tell my mum and dad, or ignore it and leave him to it?
At 14, his lungs are still developing and adding asthma into the mix means there is a much higher risk of him developing respiratory issues.
The majority of people who vape innocently believe they are inhaling flavoured steam, but the reality is much different.
Your brother is young, impressionable, and wants to be ‘one of the gang, which is all part of growing up and developing his social skills, but vaping can also lead to other addictions later in life.
It may feel like you are dobbing him in, but what if he took ill and you knew he was vaping and said nothing?
As the older sibling, I reckon your parents will be more disappointed in you for keeping this to yourself.
Tell them what’s going on and let them do what parents are supposed to do in these situations.
It’s their responsibility.
Why am I still so resentful of my ex?
We split 15 years ago and have both remarried, but I still feel hatred and anger towards him.
Despite treating me terribly with affairs and endless financial problems, he has moved on seamlessly and is living the good life with not a care in the world.
I have a wonderful husband now, who treats me well and supports everything I do.
So why do I still feel this way?
Often, people are resentful because they feel that they have been wronged and their injustice has never been resolved.
If someone (you) buries their anger to avoid conflict, and you’ve had your fair share of conflict in the past, then it ferments into resentment, especially if they relive their past over and over again.
Feeling angry at someone makes you feel you are keeping your guard up so they can’t hurt you again.
But….and listen carefully ….resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!
It’s a very negative emotion that only harms you, not the recipient.
You imagine your ex has moved on and is living the good life, but without a webcam in his home, you can monitor, you have no idea what really goes on.
You are surmising all is well when the opposite might be true.
If he is an adulterer, there is a good chance his wife is on guard most of her life.
However, at the end of the day, does it really matter how his life is?
Hazel, be grateful you’ve been given a second chance and met one of the good guys who brings you happiness, and for your sanity, this is all you really need to care about.
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