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When you are sad, tears are part of the solution

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A man is talking about the death of a child. Tears well. He apologises. A girl is being fired, accused of something she didn’t do. Tears well. She’s ashamed. A girlfriend arrives at my house amidst a nasty break-up, sobbing, humiliated that I am witnessing her distress.

Just what the actual hell is happening here people? Why are we so uncomfortable to show our sadness and the most natural way of expressing it, through tears? Why is crying sign of weakness; a symbol of failure, when it is anything but?

There should be no shame in showing emotion, especially sadness.Credit:Marjan Apostolovic

I had to ask myself these questions years ago at the end of a relationship when all I seemed able to do was cry. Like most of us sad or depressed, I retreated from the world, ashamed to show my pain, believing it a burden to others. My constant tears made me feel pathetic, unstable and, well, exhausted instead of what I really was, a normal woman experiencing deep emotional pain.

In Australia 45 per cent of people will experience a mental health condition in their lifetime with around a million adults with depression, and million with anxiety, in any year. This doesn’t count for those who are........

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