COLUMNIST: Admit it, you’re in a relationship with AI
Amelia Miller has an unusual business card. When I saw the title of "Human-AI Relationship Coach" at a recent technology event, I presumed she was capitalizing on the rise of chatbot romances to make those strange bonds stronger.
It turned out the opposite was true. Artificial intelligence tools were subtly manipulating people and displacing their need to ask others for advice. That was having a detrimental impact on real relationships with humans.
Miller's work started in early 2025 when she was interviewing people for a project with the Oxford Internet Institute, and speaking to a woman who'd been in a relationship with ChatGPT for more than 18 months. The woman shared her screen on Zoom to show ChatGPT, which she'd given a male name, and in what felt like a surreal moment Miller asked both parties if they ever fought. They did, sort of. Chatbots were notoriously sycophantic and supportive, but the female........

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