Dear Nita Ben (if I may),

Thank you so much for organising such a splendid pre-wedding event for your son in Jamnagar.

A son’s wedding is perhaps the proudest moment in a mother’s life; every mother is obliged, under the canons of sanatan dharma, to celebrate a son’s wedding as lavishly or as austerely as her husband’s means would permit. What was spent at ‘Jammin’ in Jamnagar’, as The Economic Times termed it, was surely just a drop in Mukesh bhai’s ocean of wealth.

So, never mind all that sniping from the sociologists who disapprove of conspicuous consumption or all those cussed moralists who would deride the Jamnagar extravaganza as a “vulgar display of wealth;” nor, should you, Nita Ben, worry about the old elites of Old Bombay who can carry on sitting at home with their disapproving frowns and 19th century Victorian furniture. Like a true icon, you have created your own etiquette of taste and refinement.

And, thank you, so very much for those two minutes of extremely graceful Bharatnatyam on the third day; how can anyone be critical of someone at your age undertaking such a very, very personal yet very public ode to the new-couple-to-be. These two minutes were the cherry on the cake. In any case, you can tell off all the carping critics that you were rather mindful of Prime Minister Narendra Modi’s call to shun overseas “destinations weddings.” Without doubt, the same event and the same guests could have been summoned to any part of the world; instead, you chose to go back to your roots, to Bharat.

On all counts, you have no reason to be apologetic to anyone; rather, you deserve be congratulated not only for staging the pre-wedding event on such a grand scale but also for ensuring, through the Ambani group’s impressively competent public relationship machine, that the Indian masses were served up a daily slice of what was happening inside that highly secure zone in Jamnagar. As in the old feudal days, the populace felt it was entitled to vicariously enjoy the razzmatazz in royal households.

Indeed, you and Mukesh Bhai need to be complimented for your perspicacity and sensitivity in realising that the janata needed to be distracted from the misery and wretchedness of everyday life in New India. True, your countrymen could only gawk from a distance at all those glamorous celebrities as they danced and performed for you and your global guests but we needed some relief from the dollops of malice and below-the-belt-meanness that is dished out by Narendra Modi three times a week. As a nation and society we have not been permitted to relax or have a good time; your three-days of Jamnagar fun and frolic were much-needed comfort; for weeks we will keep ourselves busy over Kareena Kapoor’s necklace and how much the three Khans charged for shaking their legs.

Beyond this titillation, you have helped the middle classes absorb a few lessons.

First, we should all be so ever grateful to you for demonstrating that someone is higher than the Indian state.

We have all thought that under Prime Minister Modi, the Indian state had become all too omnipotent and omnipresent as it has performed an unending pranprathista at the Church of National Security. The archbishops of this church have claimed for themselves the right to make more intrusive and more absolutist demands over our lives and liberties; but, the ease with which Jamnagar airport was re-designated to accommodate your guests from all around the world proves that concepts like “national security” and “national defence” are really flexible constructs. Next time when Umar Khalid’s bail application comes up, their Lordships would do well to apply the Jamnagar rules.

Second, bringing Rihanna was a nice touch.

She may or may not be on the infamous ‘IT cell’ blacklist of those who have to be mercilessly trolled by the bhakts, but you have very courageously shown that you feel free to choose your own guest list. Amir Khan was there, as was Deepika Padukone – and the bhakts dare not troll them for coming to Jamnagar.

In a subtle stroke, you have shown us that the so-called global elite can be summoned if the price is right; we are a bit wiser that a celebrity’s endorsement or criticism of a person or a cause or individual is really a transactional affair.

Also, and again very subtly, you have sorted out the pretensions of very many people. If your inclusions were a sobering pointer to your sense of delicacy of the occasion, your exclusions were equally a bracing slap.

It is difficult not to notice that you kept the politicians out of the naach-gaana at Jamnagar. Politicians bring only bad odour and aren’t the kind of people who should be invited to a family gathering. Also, no invitation for the bureaucrats. The N.K. Singhs of the world have been shown their place. As have those shouting anchors who nightly shape how the nation thinks but are ready to ingest anything the rich and powerful dish out to them.

So, dear Nita Ben, the nation’s best wishes for your son; but our grateful thanks to you for debunking some of the myths and pretensions of New India. We now look forward to the actual wedding. Permit us to close with a line from Mughal-e-Azam: Jaab raat hai aisi matwali, to subhah ka alaam kaya hoga. If the night is so heady, how adverse can the morning be?

Badhai and mubarakbad.

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06.03.2024

Dear Nita Ben (if I may),

Thank you so much for organising such a splendid pre-wedding event for your son in Jamnagar.

A son’s wedding is perhaps the proudest moment in a mother’s life; every mother is obliged, under the canons of sanatan dharma, to celebrate a son’s wedding as lavishly or as austerely as her husband’s means would permit. What was spent at ‘Jammin’ in Jamnagar’, as The Economic Times termed it, was surely just a drop in Mukesh bhai’s ocean of wealth.

So, never mind all that sniping from the sociologists who disapprove of conspicuous consumption or all those cussed moralists who would deride the Jamnagar extravaganza as a “vulgar display of wealth;” nor, should you, Nita Ben, worry about the old elites of Old Bombay who can carry on sitting at home with their disapproving frowns and 19th century Victorian furniture. Like a true icon, you have created your own etiquette of taste and refinement.

And, thank you, so very much for those two minutes of extremely graceful Bharatnatyam on the third day; how can anyone be critical of someone at your age undertaking such a very, very personal yet very public ode to the new-couple-to-be. These two minutes were the cherry on the cake. In any case, you can tell off all the carping critics that you were rather mindful of Prime Minister........

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