We use cookies to provide some features and experiences in QOSHE

More information  .  Close
Aa Aa Aa
- A +

Isn’t it time to be grown up and stop saying we ‘pass away’? We die, end of story

5 9 144

I fear that death has lately become something of an inconvenience in a society where the desire for instant gratification exists alongside the need to live life to the max. I’m not saying that death in a previous and less complicated era had been welcomed in and invited to pull up a seat by the fire. Merely, that many of us lived our lives while keeping a beady eye on death; acknowledging its inevitability and perhaps subliminally making plans to deal with it even from an early age when it was your turn to be framed in its silhouette.

Now we seem reluctant to acknowledge its existence at all; as if by uttering its name and admitting to its inevitability will diminish the intensity of this bacchanal we’re all having. People don’t die any longer; they merely “pass away” or “depart”. We now reach for any conjugation that avoids the need to say that Uncle Jimmy has actually died. This in turn has bred a glossary of inauthentic phrases deployed to skirt around the issue.

One of these is that wretched phrase “coming to terms with…” Thus the bereaved are made to think that there will come a time when they will eventually “deal with” the death of their loved one, no matter how tragic and untimely it is. We are unwilling to consider the possibility that the bereaved are capable of getting on with their lives without constantly feeling the pressure to “come to terms with” their loss.

Now the death industry itself has begun to turn against the very event that sustains it.........

© The Guardian