Human beings are awful at managing anger. History proves it.
Pick up a newspaper or watch the evening news. You’ll see signs of out-of-control anger everywhere. Whether war between countries or arguments between friends, out-of-control anger can turn lovers into fighters, marriage into divorce, and siblings into enemies.
Everyone gets angry—it’s unavoidable. It's in our DNA. But anger is not the enemy. It can be a creative force that drives change and growth in your relationship or a destructive force that destroys it.
How you manage your anger makes all the difference.
Before there is anger, there is frustration, a pulsing force that seeks relief. Maybe you’ve been denied something. Perhaps you feel hurt or misunderstood by a friend. Maybe you feel hurt or fear. Such uncomfortable feelings can produce unbearable emotional tension that presses for release.
Here’s where things get problematic. To relieve this tension, the three common misguided paths that people often choose are:
Anger mismanagement is at the core of many failed relationships. You're doomed to this until you learn to work with your anger effectively. When you know to express frustration in ways that enhance communication and deepen intimacy, you’ll be on the path to a far healthier social and romantic life. Until you do, prepare to live with regret.
As you’ve probably guessed, internalizing or externalizing anger resolves nothing. The solution lies in working through and expressing frustration without damaging yourself or others. Anger expressed in productive and nondestructive ways results in a surge of emotional maturity and greater peace of mind. Here’s how to start:
There’s no denying it; relationships can be frustrating, even enraging. Blaming yourself or others is a waste of time. When you develop the skills to redirect your anger and express your frustration positively, you’ll be rewarded with more intimate and gratifying relationships. The care and patience you nurture for others, you also nurture for yourself. And that is a win for everyone.
4 Tools to Stop Your Anger From Ruining Your Relationships
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Human beings are awful at managing anger. History proves it.
Pick up a newspaper or watch the evening news. You’ll see signs of out-of-control anger everywhere. Whether war between countries or arguments between friends, out-of-control anger can turn lovers into fighters, marriage into divorce, and siblings into enemies.
Everyone gets angry—it’s unavoidable. It's in our DNA. But anger is not the enemy. It can be a creative force that drives change and growth in your relationship or........
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