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The important conversation we're not having with our daughters

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20.01.2019

When it comes to raising daughters, we spend a lot of time focused on their heads, rather than their hearts. We agonise about developmental milestones and school choice. We fret about screen time and tie ourselves in knots over affording and scheduling extra-curricular activities.

We are right to care about our daughters’ education and associated career prospects. But when it comes to making the most of those opportunities, one of the biggest influences on a woman’s life – straight women in particular – won’t be her level of educational attainment. It will be her partner.

Simmering resentments can ensue when the domestic workload isn't evenly shared.Credit:Shutterstock

Countless studies show that one of the worst things a woman can do for her career is to marry a man. And this isn’t just about motherhood either. As a study of Harvard Business School graduates found, it’s not children that cripple women’s careers, it’s husbands.

Married and male-partnered mothers do more domestic work and child care, and have less leisure time, than their unpartnered sisters. Careers of wives also tend to take a backseat to the careers of husbands.

If he’s not willing to take on his share of parenting and domestic........

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